The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It
We as humans have the tendency to covet what we don't have. It's in our DNA somehow. And if it isn't in our DNA, it is certainly a hideous learned behavior. This "grass is greener on the other side" notion is remarkably toxic. It ruins marriages, professional relationships, finances, families. Envy, or the reactions caused by envy, ranks up there with hurricanes, tsunamis, and wild fires as one of the most destructive forces of nature.
And like most natural disasters, you can't prevent the covetous feelings. But you can take steps to prepare for it.
For starters, mind your own damn business. What someone else has in their garage or purse or bank account or bedroom is so far from being your business that you'd need a passport to get there. And if you ever need some guidelines for what is and is not your business, think of it this way:
Would you be willing to fully disclose what numbers are printed on your bank statement?
Will you tell your grocery store clerk how many times you have or have not had sex this month?
Would you mind flying a plane over the park this weekend with the grand total you've spent on credit card debt this year?
If you answered NO to all of the questions above and any similar to them, then it ain't your business to know that about someone else.
Secondly, turn that judgmental eye inward. If you find yourself wishing you looked like that highly-posed fitness influencer on the Gram, spend that time doing crunches on your living room floor during commercial breaks. And if that coworker seems to be getting all of the fanfare lately, take a bold step towards standing out in the name of success. Same thing applies across the board. Time wasted comparing yourself to other people should instead by invested working on yourself. Time is a commodity, a highly sought after form of currency that should be spent only on yourself and those that matter.
Time wasted comparing yourself to other people should instead be invested working on yourself. ~ Tweet This
One more for good measure: the act of coveting something or someone else is an admission that what you have or who you are is less than. And that kind of thinking has got to stop now. You as you are today is worth something. Is there room for improvement? Absolutely. But just as humans are capable of ugliness, we too are capable of greatness. And it's the inherit greatness within yourself that you should be watered.
Water your soul. Water your mind. Water your body. Water you relationship. Water your family. Water your career.