The Gift of Being Grateful

2016-07-22 00.12.28

2016-07-22 00.12.28

Sometimes difficult, sometimes incredibly simple, the ease of being grateful is as fluid as the ocean is wide. There are some days when the stressors of the world and of circumstances cloud your perception; you feel as if everything is against you and life itself has ceased to exist in any positive light. And then there are days when your kids are giggling, your significant other is napping on your lap, your boss recommends you for a promotion, or your podcast launch soars to the top of the charts, leaving you speechless in the path of all that is right in this world. On both days, it is equally as important to be thankful for how far you've come and how far you're capable of going.

Recently, while helping a friend feel more in control of her life, I suggested the following to help her sleep at night:

Write down a list of five things you are grateful for. Under that, write a list of five things you feel in control of right now. Add to that list every day.

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This is my journal. I write in in nearly every single night, bullet journaling list after list of things that I am grateful for. They can be as mundane as potted plants or as sincere as Favorite Friend Lauren's unwavering support and enthusiasm. Regardless of their level of life impact (so to speak), they strike me as things to be grateful for on that day and it's important to pay witness to that. Going back through the pages, it's endearing to see things like My son's thirteen good night kisses or sneaking out of work for a lunch break with Amanda. It all counts.

The next step in this process is recognizing what you are in control of. When you're up for a promotion and you're shitting your pants because you are no longer certain you're capable of taking on the role, understanding that you are in control of more than you think is imperative to maintaining a clear head and understanding your talent.

In this instance...

  • take a look at the job description for the position you are gunning for

  • check off each bullet point as you realize that you already do that a boss.

  • evaluate the other tasks that you aren't already doing and determine next steps towards understanding how to master them

  • incorporate these finding in the interview process as Areas Where I Already Excel and Areas I'm Looking Forward To Building On

  • wow the crap out of your interviewer

  • nail the promotion

When it comes to more every day minutia, getting a 360-degree grasp on what you're in control of and grateful for can seriously cut down on anxiety and stress.

My kids are driving me absolutely insane today. - However, I'm grateful they are home with me and I am in control of their screen time so NOW seems like a good time for the iPad.

My husband didn't fill up my gas tank after borrowing my car. - However, I'm glad we have two vehicles and can afford to put his in the shop to keep it safe and drivable.

My fellow #bossbabe made a poor choice and could cost us a client. - It's a good thing you have good client relationships with easy-to-work-with people that forgive mistakes and a business that enables you to call the shots with someone you trust.

It's all a matter of perspective. And it's a damn fine view once you realize what you're grateful for and in control of.